This morning as I was stirring the batter to make some muffins, Abigail, a culinary arts major and chef commented, “Mommy, you are using the wrong motion to stir those muffins.”
Immediately, it was like in the cartoons where the little red devil with the pitch fork appears on the shoulder. Except now he was on MY shoulder. The conversation in my head went like this…Who does she think she is to tell me how to make muffins? I’m fifty years old and she is twenty. I’ve made more muffins from scratch than she has ever thought about making.
Then the angel appeared on the other shoulder and rebuked me. Gaye, are you so smart you can’t learn anything from anybody else? Do you really think you are so good at cooking that there is no room for improvement? Maybe Abigail has learned cooking tips in class and from the chefs that you have never heard about.
As I realized these things, I was glad I had kept my mouth shut and not responded to Abigail the way I had wanted to. And as much as I would like to blame the devil for my initial response, I really don’t think he had anything to do with it.
I had pride in my heart and did not like being corrected and was not teachable. God’s Word says a lot about pride and how it affects relationships. Here are just a few verses.
First of all, pride produces arguments. The more pride, the more arguing. We can measure the spiritual temperature in our homes by the amount of arguing that goes on. Pride is the opposite of humility and a teachable spirit. Proverbs 13:10 says, Only by pride cometh contention.
Pride destroys relationships. Pride goeth before destruction, and a haughty (blatantly and disdainfully proud) spirit before a fall. (Proverbs 16:18)
We should think about pride the way God does. God says it is evil and he hates it. The fear of the LORD is to hate evil: pride, and arrogancy, and the evil way, and the froward (perverse) mouth, do I hate. (Proverbs 8:13)
We will not get away with it. Every one that is proud in heart is an abomination to the LORD: though hand join in hand, he shall not be unpunished. (Proverbs 16:5)
If we don’t repent and turn from our pride, there is a high price to pay. The LORD will destroy the house of the proud. (Proverbs 15:26) I don’t believe this means literally as much as it means the relationships with our family members and those we love the most will be destroyed. Isn’t that sad, that we allow our pride to come between the people who are dearest to us?
But God always gives us a solution for our sin. I John 1:9 says, If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
God tells us how to make things right with others. Proverbs 6:2-5 tells us if we have said things we shouldn’t have, to go right away to the person, humble ourselves before them, and plead with them. We can’t be completely right with God while having problems in our relationships with others.
I have found that memorizing Scripture that applies to my problem helps me to combat sin in my life. God wants to deliver us and is fully capable of doing so, but we must want it bad enough to deny ourselves and turn to Him for help.
Having an accountability partner is almost essential too. If we have a good friend we can confide in and have them ask us weekly, “Hey, how are you doing with _____?”, it can often deter us from sin and motivate us to do the right thing.
My muffins didn’t turn out as fluffy as I had hoped. It was probably because I didn’t stir them right. I’ll try tasting them now that I’ve had a large slice of humble pie. 🙂
Keep looking up,