Time’s a Tickin’!!!

ae04055c25c4cb08f6cf25e9b157fff2I have two weeks fall break in front of me. So I’ve been thinking about how I need to use this extra time. I’ve been praying that God would give me discernment about how to use this time wisely and at the end of it, He would be pleased and I wouldn’t have regrets.

As I thought about projects I’ve wanted to get done for some time now, I realized my list is much longer than will fit into a mere two weeks. It didn’t take long before I began feeling overwhelmed.

While pondering all this, I asked my son, Nathan, What would I need to change to keep a clean, organized house? He quickly responded. Seemingly without even thinking he said,

First of all, you would have to quit doing as much for other people. Then, you would have to kick Abigail and me out of the house.

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Nathan, Abigail, and me enjoying some frozen yogurt! May 2016

After I finished laughing and really began reflecting on that answer, I realized there was some  truth in it.  Although Nathan and Abigail definitely carry their weight around here, there wouldn’t be as much laundry or grocery shopping if they weren’t here.  BUT, I’ll take it any day considering the alternative! I love my family and friends.

Suddenly, I was just fine with some mess scattered around, dust on the furniture, and a pile of dirty laundry.  In light of eternity, none of that matters….at all!

I’m not implying that a clean house is a bad thing.  I am sincerely happy for those who have a system that keeps everything neat and orderly.  I’m sure it can be done while effectively ministering to others. I just haven’t figured it out yet. I know I need to make some changes.  Please share your tips with me!

We all make decisions everyday about how we spend our time and we all have the same amount of time.  The hard truth is, we find time to do what we want to do. It’s wise to be conscious of the brevity of time.  We don’t have an unlimited amount.

In Psalm 39:4, David said,

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LORD, make me to know mine end, and the measure of my days, what it is; that I may know how frail I am. Behold, thou hast made my days as a handbreadth; and mine age is as nothing before thee: verily every man at his best state is altogether vanity (like a vapor). Selah

I like what The Message says in Ephesians 5:11-16.

Don’t waste your time on useless work, mere busywork, the barren pursuits of darkness. Expose these things for the sham they are. It’s a scandal when people waste their lives on things they must do in the darkness where no one will see.  Rip the cover off those frauds and see how attractive they look in the light of Christ.  Wake up from your sleep.  Climb out of your coffins. Christ will show you the  light!  So watch your step.  Use your head.  Make the most of every chance you get.  These are desperate times!  Don’t live carelessly, unthinkingly.  Make sure you understand what the Master wants.

I hope your day is blessed as you walk with the Master redeeming the time.

Keep looking up,

Gaye Hughes

 

 

 

Speaking God’s Love Language

51vpsy3zuml__sy344_bo1204203200_Gary Chapman published a book, The Five Love Languages several years ago that revolutionized my life. It helped me understand the people in my life and why they acted as they did.
Although most people enjoy most every expression of love, usually one speaks louder than the others. The five love languages Gary Chapman writes about are…

  • Words of Affirmation
  • Physical Touch
  • Receiving Gifts
  • Quality Time
  • Acts of Service

It is natural to love others the way we feel loved, but if others have a different love language than our own, they won’t feel loved by us.  My life was so impacted by this as a young wife and mother.  I was surprised to find that my husband and each of my children all had different love languages.

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Suddenly I understood why when I complimented one child, I would often hear from the other, “Didn’t I do a good job?” Her love language was words of affirmation.  It now made sense why one of my daughters was always rubbing my arm, hugging, and wanting to snuggle.  Her love language was physical touch.  The third child felt particularly special when she received a pretty package.  Her love language was gifts.

I immediately began seeing positive results as I began speaking the love language my husband and children related to best.  It was a challenge for me to put aside my love language (acts of service) and begin speaking the love languages of my family, but the rewards were well worth it.

As I was reading God’s Word the other day, it occurred to me that God also has a love language. Jesus relayed that to us in John 14:15.

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If we are wondering the depth of our love for our Savior, we can use our Gauge of Obedience to measure that love. Talk comes easy. If you heard, I love you often, but never saw that played out in actions, you would begin to doubt its truth.

obedience1It’s easy for us to say we love God, but do we obey the truth He has already revealed to us?  Are we regularly in His Word learning new things He wants for us?  We can’t obey if we don’t know what He requires.

As circumstances and seasons of life change, so can our love language.  This sure keeps life interesting at best.  If you can’t figure out someone’s love language, why not just ask them?  I think they would be pleased that you care that much.

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Human relationships will always present challenges, but God has made it clear what His love language is and the good thing is….He never changes! Hebrews 13:8 says, Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, and today, and for ever.

Let’s love lavishly today.  Our family and friends need it.  The lost and dying world we live in also needs to see what God’s love looks like. Let’s be doers of the Word and not hearers only, deceiving ourselves. (James 1:22)

Keep looking up,

Gaye Hughes

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Meet my new little grandson, Destin Vara! Born 9-24-16! (I have a blog is the making about this little fella!)