When You’re Mad at God


Have you ever been mad at God? Did I hear a gasp?  You may think, “God is love.  He gave His only Son to be crucified for mankind.  How can anyone be mad at Him?” (I John 4:8, John 3:16)

I recently talked with a woman whose father had suddenly been snatched from this life by a massive heart attack.  I was surprised when this woman readily admitted that she was very angry with God.  It wasn’t her anger that surprised me so much as the fact that she recognized it as such and publically confessed it. When I’ve been angry at God, it took me awhile to realize exactly what was going on and then I was embarrassed to tell anyone.

After all, how do you fight your Creator? How do you win a battle with an omnipotent (all powerful), omniscient (all knowing), and omnipresent (all present) God? Nevertheless, the feelings are there.

When I’ve been mad at God, my thinking went something like this. If there is a God and He is in control, why didn’t He stop this? If God loves me, why is He allowing all this pain in my life?

 We have to remember that heartache and sorrow entered this world on our watch…not Gods! We live in this world that has a curse on it because of our sin….mine and yours and it was (and still is) our free choice.

God made a perfect paradise for Adam and Eve with scrumptious food, furry gentle animals, and beautiful nature for them to enjoy. God didn’t want humans to be like robots.  He wanted sweet fellowship with Adam and Eve and wanted them to have the same desire to be with Him.  He could have forced them to love Him, but He wanted them to choose to love Him just as He chose to love them.

So although God made lots of luscious fruit trees for Adam and Eve to enjoy, He made just one that He asked them not to eat from. That is the exact tree (the tree of the knowledge of good and evil)  that Satan  tempted Eve to eat of to thwart God’s perfect relationship with her and her husband and God.

When she and Adam disobeyed God, sin entered the world.  God then asked them to leave the Garden of Eden, lest they eat of the tree of life and forever be in their sinful state. (Genesis 3:22) Because God is holy, He could not let sin go unaddressed.  God’s punishment of death was actually an act of mercy.  Would you really want to live in a sin cursed world forever?  I wouldn’t.  God cared too much to allow Adam and Eve to live forever in this sinful condition.

Is it a horrible thing to be angry with God? Actually, I think there are at least a few positive things to be said about it.

First of all, one can’t be angry with someone they don’t believe exist.  So the fact that feelings are directed toward God means you believe there really is a God.

Second of all, if you are angry with God, you believe He has the power to change things. You may be upset and not agree with what He has done or allowed, but you do believe He is in charge.

As a parent, I have never enjoyed disciplining my children.  It is much easier to ignore or excuse their disobedience than to address it.  But the reason I haven’t taken the easier route is because I have high expectations of a successful future for them because I love them and that means more to me than their present happiness or how much they like me.

God sees the big picture.  He wants the best for His children.  No pain, no gain.  If I understand my Bible correctly, one of God’s purposes for my life is for me to have the opportunity to make preparations for my eternal life.

Unfortunately, it usually takes the school of hard knocks to get the desired results. I know it does for me!  It takes the fire to burn the dross away so I can get my priorities right.  It often takes tough times to get us to think about how we are living and what and who we are living for.

If you find yourself mad at God, it may not be all bad.  The important thing is to tell God how you feel.  He already knows it, but it will help you to admit it. Ask Him to forgive you and help you trust that He knows best. Ask God to show you what He wants you to learn through the trials you are experiencing. Whatever you do, don’t give up on God, because He hasn’t given up on you.

Keep looking up,

Gaye Hughes