Speaking God’s Love Language

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Although most people enjoy most every expression of love, usually one speaks louder than the others. The five love languages Gary Chapman writes about are…

  • Words of Affirmation
  • Physical Touch
  • Receiving Gifts
  • Quality Time
  • Acts of Service

It is natural to love others the way we feel loved, but if others have a different love language than our own, they won’t feel loved by us.  My life was so impacted by this as a young wife and mother.  I was surprised to find that my husband and each of my children all had different love languages.

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Suddenly I understood why when I complimented one child, I would often hear from the other, “Didn’t I do a good job?” Her love language was words of affirmation.  It now made sense why one of my daughters was always rubbing my arm, hugging, and wanting to snuggle.  Her love language was physical touch.  The third child felt particularly special when she received a pretty package.  Her love language was gifts.

I immediately began seeing positive results as I began speaking the love language my husband and children related to best.  It was a challenge for me to put aside my love language (acts of service) and begin speaking the love languages of my family, but the rewards were well worth it.

As I was reading God’s Word the other day, it occurred to me that God also has a love language. Jesus relayed that to us in John 14:15.

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If we are wondering the depth of our love for our Savior, we can use our Gauge of Obedience to measure that love. Talk comes easy. If you heard, I love you often, but never saw that played out in actions, you would begin to doubt its truth.

obedience1It’s easy for us to say we love God, but do we obey the truth He has already revealed to us?  Are we regularly in His Word learning new things He wants for us?  We can’t obey if we don’t know what He requires.

As circumstances and seasons of life change, so can our love language.  This sure keeps life interesting at best.  If you can’t figure out someone’s love language, why not just ask them?  I think they would be pleased that you care that much.

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Human relationships will always present challenges, but God has made it clear what His love language is and the good thing is….He never changes! Hebrews 13:8 says, Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, and today, and for ever.

Let’s love lavishly today.  Our family and friends need it.  The lost and dying world we live in also needs to see what God’s love looks like. Let’s be doers of the Word and not hearers only, deceiving ourselves. (James 1:22)

Keep looking up,

Gaye Hughes

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Meet my new little grandson, Destin Vara! Born 9-24-16! (I have a blog is the making about this little fella!)

 

 

 

“No one will know…”

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Bethany, Anna, Nathan, David, and Abigail

As a parent, I never quite knew what to do when I confronted my children about a wrong doing in which they had no regrets.  Do you make them apologize when it is obvious they are not sorry? Twenty-five years later, I still don’t have the answer.

Although I never had much trouble with my children, I remember being surprised when those cute little kids argued.  I recall my sister-in-law saying, “You have to remember Gaye, they are just little sinners.  They will be much sweeter after they come to know Jesus.” 

She was right! In fact, I could see a new tenderness of heart right away after each of them at various times talked with Jesus, repented of their sin, and asked Him to be the Lord of their lives. But after that, there is still much training and Bible knowledge needed.

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I’ve often wonder if the character qualities I deem most important  were properly passed down to my children.  Eighteen years just doesn’t seem like enough time to get them ready for all life can throw at them. Thankfully, my children have a personal relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ so they have the Holy Spirit to teach and guide them.  He’s a much better teacher than I could ever be!

Something happened recently that really encouraged me.  The truck Nathan (age 17) drives has tinted windows. It was that way when we bought it and the tinted plastic

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had begun to peel on the side windows.  Because it was going to take awhile to be repaired, we dropped the truck off and left.

Quotation-J-M-Hill-right-values-Meetville-Quotes-244630-300x204I got a call later and my conversation with the repairman went something like this…

Repairman: You told me you wanted me to match the side windows with the back tinted window and I can do that, but I wanted to let you know there is a law regulating the degree of tint that can be put on the side windows.  If I match the back window like you asked me to, it will be a little darker than the law allows.  Do you want me to match it  or do you want to stay legal?

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Me: I want to stay legal.

Repairman: I can use the darker tint. No one will be able to tell by looking at it.

Me: No, we want to stay legal. Hey, my son is outside…can you hold on and let me ask him what he wants to do?

Repairman: Well, I can tell you what HE is going to say.  He will want it to match.

Me: Just hold on a minute and let me ask him.

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I explained the situation to Nathan and asked him what he wanted to do and he replied, I want to stay legal.

That’s when my mommy heart leaped for joy and did a little dance! I trotted back to the phone and said, I just want you to know I have one awesome son and he wants to stay legal!

Nathan would probably have never gotten a ticket had he decided to have the windows tinted darker, but he wanted to do the right thing anyway. His decision made me happy as his mother, but more importantly, it made his Lord happy.

May we all…

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Have a blessed day!

Gaye

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What’s the Bottom Line?

 

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Where is your path of life leading you?

What’s the bottom line in this life? We know there is a lot of uncertainty in this life, but we don’t know how many days we have. So to me, having confidence in what will happen after this life is the bottom line. This determines how we live our lives, what choices we make, how we spend our time, and what is most important to us.

We can say we believe a lot of things, but the way we live proves what we really believe…..unless we are side tracked and distracted by this world and the devil.  We can say our family is one of the most important things in our lives, but are we living in a way that validates that? It’s easy to get busy doing things that really don’t matter at all and neglecting the people who matter most.

Have you ever thought about what you are going to think about on your death bed? As you realize your opportunities to have a positive influence, serve God,  and love others are coming to an end, how will you feel? Will you feel good about how you’ve spent your precious time here and the things you’ve accomplished?

The first Scripture we taught our children to memorize was John 14: 6.

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Why? We wanted to make sure our children would be with us in heaven for eternity.

 

 

 

Ephesians 6:1 was another memory verse early on.

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We knew if our children didn’t honor and respect us as their parents, they wouldn’t honor or respect God as their heavenly father.

 

John 3:16-18 soon followed…

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For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved. He that believeth on him is condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.

The other day I was with a lady who knows she probably doesn’t have much time left here. I wanted to make sure she was placing her faith in Jesus Christ and was at peace about dying.

As we talked, she said, I don’t know my Bible as well as you do, but I’ve been taught… Then she asked me what denomination I belonged to. I said, I am a follower of Jesus Christ and I believe the Bible. I am placing my faith in Jesus and the truth in this book. Denominations don’t mean much to me.

It is easy to live our lives believing what we’ve been taught, but is our faith good enough to die by? I don’t want to risk my eternal well-being on what someone else has taught me! When I repented of my sin and placed my faith and trust in Jesus, the Holy Spirit came to live inside of me.  He is the one who convicts me of sin, confirms to me what is right and wrong, teaches and comforts me.

I recently went away for a few days to visit my family in NC. I left my son with some specific instructions before I left. When I came home I found that he had followed most of them, but had left a few undone.  The To Do list was lying in front of us. When I confronted him about it, he didn’t have a good reason for not following my requests and apologized.

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Some of my NC family…from left to right, Cordell (dad), Mary (mom), Nick (nephew) John (brother-in-law) Faye (twin sister), Faith (niece) Bethany (daughter), Wesley (son-in-law) 2-16-2016

I said, Nathan, this is what it’s going to be like when we face Jesus and give an account of how we’ve lived. I imagine God will say something like this, I left you instructions. They are right there in the Bible. I told you what I expected. We won’t have a leg to stand on. There will be no good excuse for disobeying Him.

Will you please take some time to think about what the bottom line is in your life? What really matters? Should it matter?  Your faith may be good enough to live by, but will it be good enough to die by?

This song reflects my faith,

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My hope is built on nothing less Than Jesus’ blood and righteousness;

I dare not trust the sweetest frame, But wholly lean on Jesus’ name.

When He shall come with trumpet sound, O may I then in Him be found;

Dressed in His righteousness alone, Faultless to stand before the throne.

On Christ the solid Rock, I stand; All other ground is sinking sand,

All other ground is sinking sand.

Standing on the Rock,

Gaye Hughes

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My sister, Faye, and me and the big fish we caught….NOT! 🙂

 

 

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